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When did you really get to make a difference for someone else? 
Submitted by bodhibound.

A good difference or a bad difference?

"Make a difference" -- pretty vague, that.

In 2003, I left my boyfriend of three years in probably the most immature way possible:  I went to Los Angeles and was there for maybe two weeks before I had the guts to tell him that I had no intentions of coming back.  In retrospect, that was a really bad idea for a number of reasons; first and foremost being that two romances before me, he was dumped pretty much by proxy of figuring out that they had already started dating somebody else.

While my ex- in question and I eventually "made up" and became friends after that, he's still a lot less trusting of other people than he used to be, which is actually saying a lot, because the ex- of his that I mentioned probably left him slightly less trusting but that optimistic spark in him hadn't died out yet. 

While he's still my best friend, if only because I can't think of anybody else who would put up with me or anybody else after what I did to him, he's a totally different person now than when I dated him.  Well, of course, a lot of people are a "totally different person" now versus who they were in 2003 (and if you can say otherwise, then you probably have a LOT of growing up to do), but a lot of what's changed about his personality wasn't for the better.  He's far more pessimistic and misanthropic than he used to be, he's gone from a.. let's say "hopeful agnostic Pagan" to a being a rather "hopeless hardcore Atheist".  He expects the worst out of most people when, before, he pretty much gave everybody a "clean slate" until they started writing on it themselves.

I've definitely "made a difference", but at the same time, I doubt anybody would say that it was for the best.